Feeling is painful. We are conditioned not to feel, even as children. As parents we get uncomfortable when our children are hurt, angry, crying, rather than allowing them to feel those feelings we tend to commend, encourage, even reward them not to cry when they are hurt, or get angry when they don’t like something. Even when it comes from a place of love, its damaging. We take medications, smoke, drink, anything not to feel the stress of the day, the thing that our spouse sa